From the article: 10 Things Not to Say to an Over Due Pregnant Woman
Being past your due date can be a stressful time. What are some of the crazy things, or helpful things, that people have said to you when you were over due? Share Your Experience
Make the most of the rest now,arghhh
- I am now 5 days overdue and so sick of people telling me to make the most of my sleep! I am not sleeping! I am enormous,sore and cant sit still. I know people mean well but when they say so you havent had the baby yet, I mean really! You can see Ive not had the baby! It feels like it will never happen. Chin up everyone and all the best
- —Guest So frustrated
Annoyed
- I am 7 days overdue. I am so sick of people asking me. My mom feels the need to text me multiple times a day starting at 7am and remind me. I don't think I'm going to forget I'm pregnant or overdue. I just want to be left alone.
- —Guest gator
Castor Oil
- Okay, like all the other women commenting I am 4 days past my due date, and very frustrated with the constant, "anything yet?" or "have you had the baby?" but the one thing that has bothered me the most is that EVERYONE seems to know the "magical" way to induce labor. So many people have come to me bugging me with "oh have you tried walking?" NO! I just sit all the time! Or "have you tried this or that?" my boyfriend is the worst about it. He will not get off this CASTOR OIL thing!! I have told him over and over that I don't want to drink the nasty crap and that I am already going to be uncomfortable because of contractions, why would I risk making myself even MORE uncomfortable by having diarrhea the whole time!!! It is getting ANNOYING! He will come when he is ready. And I just wish everyone would leave me be!! I hope you had fun reading my rampage :) I know it has helped me pass some time reading everyone else’s!! Good luck to all you ladies! :)
- —Guest Courtney
Did you have a baby?
- I am 4 days over due. i am tired waiting, but most agravating is when the people ask if I had the baby. I unswer that I will let them know the same day when I do! I am so sick of comments. I do not want to see or call to anybody. I asked some people not to ask me anymore.
- —Guest Nat
Annoying questions
- I am so sick of people asking me if we have had the baby yet. I am 4 days past due. I am screening calls now & have tried most home remedies to no avail. I am anxious about the growing size of this baby, but also worried that I will have to have a caeserean, which I do not want. I have permanent reflux & am sleeping on a recliner. I am worried that something will go wrong with our baby if it is left much longer. I am totally over this wait & feel like I am going to burst. Sick of everyone's well-meaning comments. I could not be more uncomfortable if I tried & doubt I will ever go into labour naturally.
- —Guest Dee
Are you expecting me not to come back?
- I keep getting "oh, you're still here then?" from people in my small village - it's a bit unnerving to be honest, as if they are expecting me not to survive childbirth! And then I get the people asking when the baby is coming, if I knew that...!! ARGH! I didn't record my LMP date as I was incredibly irregular, so my due date comes from a scan at 7 weeks and has never been changed, according to that I'm 9 days over today, but I'm not taking that as read, with it being 29th Feb today I'm happy to wait another day at least! I'm also completely fed up with the "oh you should make the most of it", I can't sleep, I can't walk, I can't sit down, I can't lie down, I can't dress myself, I have no appetite, I have permanent heartburn and I have a room full of baby things getting dusty - I just want to meet my baby, and sleep on my stomach!!
- —Guest Carys
OVER IT!
- I am 40 weeks 4 days and like all of you, I get the annoying calls and texts asking if my son is here yet. Rather than to let me rest and be if he is! I am going in to the hospital tomorrow for some exams and I guess depending on the results either I come home or get induced. Good luck to all :)
- —Guest Kween
Kindly Back Off
- I'm 12 days past due. At 8 days past, my husband sent out a "kindly back-off" email to ALL of our well-meaning friends/family. As someone else said, it would be okay if it was just one or two people, but it felt like EVERYONE asking "When?When?When?" If we knew, we'd tell you (probably) and we WILL tell you AFTER the baby comes out. We really will. Promise. Since the email, the constant questions/comments have slowed down considerably, which has been helpful for my/our peace of mind. We're first-time parents and have enough anxiety of our own without listening to everyone else's concerns/excitement.
- —PacificNorthwestMama
Preganacy is not a disability
- At 9 1/2 months pregnant the last thing I want to hear when my crotch and back are very sore is that pregnancy is not crippling. IT very well can be. We can not reach as far, we trip easily, we are unable to sleep on our tummies. It is easy to say that being pregnant has no pains and discomforts when you are not pregnant. Another is the closer I came to my due date the more names people put in and shoved in my face. I am currently 40 weeks and 4 days and I can not go to family house with out STUPID names being tossed out and they are not joking and really get up set when I say I will not name my daughter princess yes they really want that to be the name. I really hate it when they want me to name the baby after them and try a guilt trip before I can even say no, every day I see them they insult about being pregnant and then try to get me to name the baby after them or name her princess really.
- —Guest charlie
Are you still in one piece?
- Do people think that I should be in pieces, I am overdue by 10 days with baby number 9! I hear things like "if this is baby number 9 shouldn't it just fall out". 3 of the babies have arrived before the midwife could get to me. And so far have gone overdue with 8 of my 9 children, 18 days is the maximum.
- —Guest mumofnine
When's the baby coming?
- Its my due date today and already I can't handle- "whens the baby coming?" If I knew I'd tell you! I mean really! And the very insensitive one: "Are you sure the baby is still kicking?" This is not something a first-time mom wants to hear. Ever.
- —Guest Anon
Tired of being pressured into induction
- I have a history of being late with my kids. I have two so far and am expecting my third. With my first born I opted for an induction because I was naive. With the second one I told them no induction unless medically necessary. Still, one of my OB's kept trying to push it!! It made me so mad to where I hated going to my appointments. I was about 10 days over when my labor started on its own. I am expecting this one to go over too and will fight as long as I have to!!
- —Guest ChrissyG
Leave me alone!
- I hate being asked 'how are you feeling?' I feel pregnant dammit! I am currently 3 days past due date...and get meaningful calls and texts from friends and family asking if there is any signs of baby or labor yet. Grrr....I keep telling them that they'll know when the baby comes!!!
- —Guest mmp3
A good filter is difficult to find
- The phone calls & comments are a bit much. I read that giving birth is part of life so it's best yo keep living. True but who to see or spend time with when every interaction turns on the baby, the due date,what I'm doing to move things along and what I could or should be doing. In my own zone I have felt pretty good. I didn't feel the baby was ready before and now feel the baby is getting ready and come when it's time. Unfortunately saying doesn't stop the onslaught of unwanted comments which have been making me feel annoyed. I kind of feel like screaming "back off".even my well intending partners response of saying "we're just waiting for baby" is Pissing me off. What I want to be doing is living and opening myself up to the birthing experience. Filtering out the comments however is taking it's toll. Hoping writing about it helps.
- —Guest Anonamom
"Aren't you past due?"
- Any minute now. I went into preterm labor, as the Dr. called it, at 48 hrs till the END of week 38(full term). They felt it needed to be stopped and since then I have been contracting for 8 hrs every single night but to no avail. When people, friends and strangers alike, ask me every single day variations of is she here yet or aren't you past due by now I started responding with, "Any moment- wanna stick around and catch?" Eventually they got the idea and stopped asking since I am now three days over due and still contracting.
- —rtsmommy
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