What did I do to deserve this ?
- As I read these comments I am balling my eyes out. I have 2 wonderful boy (4 yrs and 18months). My 1st pregnancy I wanted a little girl so bad, When I found out he was a boy I cried for weeks. I had dreams about giving birth to him in my mother bathroom and forcing my husband to put him in his lunch pal and hide him in his tool box. I love my son dearly but it did not change the fact I still wanted a girl. With my second pregnancy everything was different, I was sick, I craved sweet things. When the US tech said congrats it is a boy... I LOST it!! I had never been so pissed in my life. It only took me about 3 months to get over the fact that I was having a boy.I will never get my little girl. My husband and I chose to get my tubes clamped because we have not intentions on having more children. WORSE mistake I have ever made!If I could unclamp them my self I would. My husband and I have talked about getting a reversal done but my luck I will have another boy. Why did I not get my girl??
- —Guest Lost
- We have a beautiful 6 year old girl who I am head over heels in love with. I'm 16 weeks gone with our second, and at the dating scan the sonographer asked us if we wanted to know the sex (I was almost 15 weeks so she could get a pretty clear idea!). She told us it looked like a boy, but to wait til the 20 week scan to know for sure. Since that day I've been so depressed it physically hurts. I don't want a boy AT ALL. My husband is thrilled, as is our daughter, but I'm so angry at him for not giving me another girl and this thing inside me feels alien. I don't feel any love towards this baby right now, and everyone telling me how great it will be having one of each is just infuriating. It's not great, it's terrible. There are so many boys in both of our families, so everyone was thrilled when we had our girl. Now I just feel like a failure for having yet another boy. I'm told this will all fade once I give birth, but right now I just feel so hopeless.
- —Guest Emma
It's a boy...
- I already have a 14 month old boy and very early on in this pregnancy I just knew this baby was a boy as well. It has been a mirror pregnancy so it was no surprise when the tech confirmed "it's a boy." I'd be kidding myself if I said I wasn't disappointed. I came from a boy/girl family and I have a wonderful relationship with my mom so I was hoping I'd be able to share something similar with my own little girl one day. I always figured she'd have my head of dark hair, her daddy's blue eyes...I'd dress her up in the cutest outfits and take her shopping all the time. I haven't shed any tears since finding out it's another boy, I just keep thinking about what might have been. There truly are endless positives to having another boy. We'll save money on clothes/toys and they'll be the best of friends, only 18 months apart. My husband told me I'd forever be the Queen of our house, on the highest pedestal. So I guess now I'm just hoping to one day have several grandaughters to spoil with love
- —Guest Bummed
Expecting a Tomboy
- I wanted a boy, everyone kept telling me it's a girl, it's a girl, and I just denied it. I even bought boy clothes to bring the baby home in. We decided to keep the gender of the baby a surprise,but when I delivered it sure was a surprise... it was a girl. We were happy she was healthy, and there with us, but I cried because I didn't get my boy. Now she is three, and she will ask me to paint her nails, while she wears her princess dresses, but at the same time plays with her tools, and holding her Buzz Lightyear action figure... I wouldn't change it, or have it any other way..
- —Guest Mama PP
- I was really sad to find out that I was having a girl ( i have 3 boys)...for me what really bothered me is having found out what I was having...I didn't want to know and the nurse "accidently "told me...now 6 months preg I couldn't care less if I d go in labour now just cause the "what is it" feeling is gone...
- —Guest mommy2four
Yearning for a baby girl
- My first I was so happy for a boy, ya know to protect his little "sister". Then when I found out the second was a boy, I was a little disappointed. The third time I was told it was a boy, I went into the bathroom and cried like a baby. I am in love with my boys, but I still wish, hope and pray that our 4th and final, when we decide to have another is a GIRL, but I guess with my luck I will probably have another boy. Both of my parents had all girls, but my hubby's all boys!!! I guess I am just cursed since there are more boys in his family! Kinda jealous of my sister and sister-in-law, they have a girl.
- —Guest momof3boys
- I just KNEW I was going to have a little girl. All of the old wives tales pointed to that, and I just had this gut feeling. When I had my u.s. I found out I was wrong and I was having a boy. I was so sad that I cried. Fast forward almost 3 years later and I wouldn't trade my son for ANYTHING. I love him with all of my heart and he is such a blessing. I am pregnant now with #2 ,and yes I am hoping for a girl this time. But I know that I will love whatever God blesses me the same either way.
- —Guest Ginger
WILL TIME HEAL ALL WOUNDS??
- I had my son 10 years ago and it was a horrible pregnancy ending with an emergency c section. To say I was in no rush to do that again is an understatement. Now I'm in a new relationship and happily pregnant again and this pregnant is a lot smoother than my sons so I just knew it was a girl. I had a name clothes etc...just to do a 3-d ultrasound and am told its another BOY... I cried..my shopping days and dance recitals and modeling dreams have all escaped me through my finger tips. Maybe they have it all wrong but that wouldn't be my luck =(
- —Guest 10 YEARS LATER
Wanted a girl so bad!!!!
- I have always been a girl who loves pick dresses and cute pink. Barbies makeup I have always wanted a little girl I have dreamed of having a little girl picked out names what she was going to look like and how her room was going to be. everything in pink. Then at 19 found out I was going to have a baby and I was so happy my little girl I have always dreamed of. My dream was going to come true then when the doc called and said what do you want boy or Girl I said Girl he said it was a boy asked me was going to keep the baby I said yes my hops my dreams went down the drain I cried and cried and I did not no what to do I was scared The one thing I wanted was a girl I’m never going to get the baby girl and I was thinking how was I going to Love a Boy I did not want to feel this way I did not no what to do. Then when I had him I loved him so much and he is my everything I love him so much he looks so much like me. Now I'm having dreams and having baby fever and I want baby girl.
- —Guest ash
Didn't want to know
- So- my husband and I are 35 weeks prego with our first. I didn't want to know the sex of my baby. Truly, my whole life I have wanted a boy. I grew up with just my mom and my sister- and always wanted a boy at home. I always had a blue doll stroller wtih two boys (as a kid when playing house). My husband didn't have the best relationship with his dad and he plays sports professionally so I knew he wanted a son too. We decided not to find out. Today the doctor slipped and said "I think it is a girl but its hard to tell- yes I think a girl". I know this is not 100% but I feel crushed- like I was hit by a truck. I secretly told myself it was a girl to avoid disappointment, but I'm still sad. On top of all of this- his family makes stupid comments like "I bet you can't father a son" to my husband- they think it is funny- but I am afraid if someone says this to him post baby- I will LOSE MY MIND. I am trying to cope and be happy for a healthy baby. I know that is all that matters but its har
- —Guest Trying not to be sad Mama
- I had three kids from my first marriage 1 boy and 2 girls. This is my second marriage and I'm 17 wks pregnant. This is my husbands first child and we ll find out the sex of the baby in 3 wks. I really don't care what it is since i already have kids of both gender but he is fixated that he wants it to be a boy. I intend to get my tubes tied after this baby no matter what the gender is but i am worried that if its a girl he ll be disappointed and might want to seek a relationship with someone who is willing to try to give him a boy. Any advice anyone?
- —Guest last baby worried
- We are taking a risk even by getting pregnant because the doctor say it is high risk for me. If me and the baby make it through in good health, we will be happy no matter the gender.
- —Guest My one chance
- I have 3 sons who are the world to me I had thought of number 4 but can't have more I have a sister who has one boy and is now having a girl and I am heartbroken as she really wanted a boy but has competed with me all my life and will rub this in big time!! I feel guilty for feeling like this I am not a mean person keep telling myself it's life and love the ones your with!! Thx for all sharing
- —Guest Kate mum of 3 boys
1st baby boy
- I just found out today that I'm having a boy-- my first child. My husband has all brothers, so I figured this one would be a boy. But I absolutely could not help but feel sad. I always wanted a girl to have the relationship I had with my mom. I feel like a terrible person for not being thrilled with my boy, but all I can picture are football games (barf!), toy trucks scraping up my walls, and Star Wars figurines. I have all sisters, female cousins, and neices and have no idea how to even talk to a boy. I guess I will have to figure it out. Maybe next time, I'll have my girl. Good luck mamas!
- —Guest Hannah
Not Going to Plan
- I want to preface this post by saying that I am in love with my baby. I don't believe that anyone will accuse me of otherwise, but sometimes it feels as though because I am disappointed about my baby's sex that I may come off as ungrateful. It's just that I will only be 20 years old when I give birth, and being pregnant was not where I envisioned myself at this age. With all the stresses of working on my degree and being a young mother with an unexpected pregnancy, I had only wished for a girl; a sex I could relate to, one I understand. I guess I am just grieving because none of this is going to plan. Not only am I so very young and pregnant, but now I feel as though I have waded in to even more unfamiliar territory with a son. I know I will love my son, and that he will be my light... I just deeply desire for a little girl. And as I don't plan on children for the next 10 years (at least!) I'm not sure if I will ever get my chance to have a little girl
- —Guest Jessica