- I was so happy they told us we were having a boy because I have two girls already...
- —Guest Mimi
- I have a daughter who is 1 1/2 and me and my husband, not to mention the rest if the family were hoping for the first grand boy. I am 2 days shy of 20 weeks and found out it's a girl. I am happy its healthy, just scared I won't have that same bond as I do with my first daughter. Does anyone feel the same? How was it after you had your second child of the same sex?
- —Guest Ash
- I have 2 boys and I was wanting another boy...i have never desired a girl or all the girly things. But im 23 weeks and found out its a girl. Im completey heartbroken. I hate everyone saying as long as its healthy..or they think just cause I have boys means I wanted a girl. Idk how to deal with this. Just put on a fake smile so I dont have to hear everyones pep talk. Ive lost all interest in this pregnancy. I dont wanna go shopping I just wished for another boy.
- —Guest Ashamed
Love being a mom
- Time will feel your pain but we should all be grateful. God gives us what he knows we can handle and what he thinks is right. I'm still crying but know my son is very fortunate to have a brother to play with and share his life with. I have no doubt they will be best friends. We, as parents, need to be less selfish and think of our children instead of oh.... I wanted a boy/girl. Whatever sex your baby or my babies will be.... Will be perfect. Having a family is an amazing experience. God is good. Best regards to all the mamas out there.....
- —Guest Love being a mom
- Thank you for giving me a little bit of sanity! All I think about all day is how can I be a mom of 2 boys now 3! My husband has 3 girls so he loves having the boys but me it's not fair I can't expierience the pleasures of mommy and daughter! My dr was even scarred to tell me it's s boy! One of my friends responded oh no..... Well at least ur a good mom to boys hope he's healthy!! Well no kidding! I can't stand other moms w their daughters and was starting to think something was wrong with me. I know I will love him I just long for a sweet baby girl. How do u get over this:(
- —Guest C
Hoping against hope
- Being a tom boy I have always longed for a boy and having two stepdaughters makes me want a boy even more. My husband and I were convinced I am carrying a boy yet the u/s say 98% it's a girl. I took the news really badly, my husband is also dispointed his life long dream isn't happening but he's fine, and yet I'm struggling to accept it. I know it sounds mean, and I will love my child regardless, but I feel bereft I haven't got the son I dreamed of and secretly hope they have got it wrong. I'll be lucky if my husband lets me try for another after this one (which will make his 4th child but only my 2nd). If I am lucky enough to be blessed with another I don't know how I will cope if it's yet another girl, it's like I mourn for the son I never had. Sorry for sounding heartless
- —Guest Blue - if only
- I just found out yesterday that I am having my second boy. And I am absolutely devastated. I was convinced that I was having a girl and had an image of her in my mind and had already chosen her name. I have not stopped crying since I found out. This will be my last child and I feel like I have been cheated out of having my princess. I cannot visualise myself with another boy and have not been able to touch my stomach since. This child feels alien to me now and I'm ashamed to say that I feel as if I don't want it. I feel terrible for feeling this way as I know that so many women are unable to have children and this child should be considered a blessing but I can't hide my devastation. I feel in mourning for the daughter I thought I was having
- —Guest sarah jane
- I am currently 13weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I already have 2 handsome little guys at home ages 6 and 3. Everyone keeps telling me that they believe i'm gonna have a little girl because i say i don't want a little girl. But what they don't know is that i've been praying for a little princess. I want a little GIRL!! But i can't help but have the feeling that i'm carrying a little boy even though this pregnancy begin a little differently than the other two. I feel like that if when i get my ultrasound i'm gonna be dissappointed because i know the tech is gonna say it's a boy. But i'm keeping my fingers crossed. Just hoping that's whatever it is he/she will be healthy.
- —Guest JustMe
Everything pointed out to be a GIRL
- I did every test (drano crystals, ring test, Chinese gender chart, old midwife tales, etc.) and everything resulted a girl. I went in for my 19 week ultrasound and unsure sonographer said it was a boy. I understand the baby was facing its back to us, so the second sonographer came in only to confirm it somehow. (The baby had not moved at all.) So now my fiance and I are bummed for a daughter but are really trying to accept another boy... *sigh*
- —Guest maidmosellefleur
My second baby girl
- My husband and I had our hearts set on a boy but at our 19 week ultrasound we found out we are having our second girl,we were so heartbroken we kept faith that the tech was wrong at my 29 week ultrasound the tech said most definitely a girl,we have gotten over that we god did not give us our son this time but yet he has blessed us with another beautiful baby girl and we couldn't be more thankful
- —Guest Eri
a clan of 3 boys
- I have a 9 yr old son..I hoped he would be a girl...I remarried a man who had a son...we planned to have a 3rd child to complete the family. I PRAYED it would be a girl...my friends and family all prayed for me...When we found out it was a boy I wanted to cry...worse I wanted to jump off a bridge. I never wanted 3 boys...im only 29 BUT i really didnt plan on raising 4 kids. I wont be happy without my girl..but i cant roll the dice again * not gonna happen* Adopting is expensive and i want her to look like ME. We have talked about IVF with PGD which is $6000 min each try..my husband isnt thrilled. We arent poor but we certainly arent rich. I get depressed when I think about it...when we go shopping for the baby and I see the girl section I become silent and in tears...I can't live like this anymore..why am I allowing myself to suffer so????!
- —Guest Jesica Racsumberger
- I'm 16 weeks pregnant and I find out what I'm having on the 1st of August. I already have two girls and one son I had a ectopic pregnancy in December and when I found out I was pregnant again I was so happy. I realy want a boy because my son is the only one his age in our family and he needs a little playmate. When I asked him what he thought it was, he said a boy. I'm really hoping he's right but they always say its usually the opposite of what you wish for.
- —Guest Rosa
- When I found out #1 was a boy I was ok with it. I kinda had the gut feeling and thought every girl needs a big brother. Well when I went in for #2 revelation I was crushed. the moment the tech began with the b sound my stomach dropped and I burst into tears. I cried all day long. My husband just doesnt get it. Im young enough to have another but fear another boy. I also am very jealous of everyone who gets that girl. Its been 3 years and I think about my girl Ill never have everyday and wonder what I did wrong. I feel like I should seek help and noone really understands how I feel. I dispise the comment at least they are healthy. Yes Im happy about that but that changes nothing in my mind. I want a girl, not an adopted girl either. I feel like I will be alone when my boys grow up. I have no neices either and only 1 much older sister. I am not over it and dont think I ever will be.
- —Guest momof2boys
- At 12 weeks, we were told twins - one boy and the other unsure by the maternal fetal medicine Dr (we are both 35+, so high risk factor). At 16 weeks, the verdict was two girls. We both wanted boys. We already have a boy who has been so amazing, we hoped for at least one more boy. My wife was disappointed but moved on easily. I feel like I am grieving over a dear one's death. I cannot bring myself to acknowledge I won't have more boys. I cannot bring myself to tell my friends and family that we are having girls. My wife is more upset with me that I have been unable to move on. She does not understand how badly my heart yearned for more rambunctious, daddy wrestling, Star Wars loving boys. And I know I have to come to terms with reality but I am afraid I may not. I have always had a hard time letting go.
lost the daughter I never had
- My fiance has 3 girls from his previous marriage, and I wanted a girl. I even managed to convince myself and everyone around me that I was having a girl. When I had my scan and found out I was having a boy, I managed to keep it together until we got out the hospital, where I promptly burst into tears. Everyone knew I was having my scan, and when I was asked 'so, what are you calling her?', I would start crying again while telling them it was a boy. For ages I couldn't call the baby 'he' or even by his name after we decided on one, I just called him it. After a while I was pleased we found out at the scan, as it gave me time to get used to the idea. Freddie is now nearly 2, and although I love him and wouldn't swap him for the world, I sometimes look at friends with little girls and feel a bit jealous and upset. We won't be having any more children, my fiance doesn't want any, and neither do I, because I don't want another boy, but I can't tell friends or family that.
- —Guest shimmergirl