My Current Pregnancy
I am currently 26 weeks pregnant with a boy and I also have an 8 year old daughter and 11 year old son. This pregnancy has been picture perfect with no sickness, little weight gain and tons of activity from my little guy.
Anything Else
The first 12, actually 16 weeks, were nerve racking. I found out I was pregnant after just 2 normal cycles and while I was at my Mother's funeral. It was an extremely stressful and sad time for me, so it took a while for the joy to kick in again.
My Pregnancy Loss
I got pregnant very unexpectedly when my other 2 children were already 8 and 11 years old. After 2 very normal pregnancies, I was very surprised when I began bleeding on a family vacation at 8 weeks along, I thought at first a lot of women go through this, it is no big deal. When it continued for the next 3 days and the cramping began I called my doctor. They had me come in and were able to find a heartbeat, but all looked very gloomy and sad. Two days later the heartbeat was gone and a D and C was needed as I was not dilating at all. My husband and I were devastated.
Deciding to Get Pregnant Again
Almost as soon I recovered from the D and C I knew I wanted to try again. My husband was not so sure and was scared of going through another miscarriage. After much discussion, we waited through the first cycle and, despite doctor's orders, by cycle 2 I was ready to try again. My husband however did not think it was a good idea and did not cooperate. I was very emotional about this for weeks after I knew my ovulation had passed. The very next month we did not do anything special, but did not prevent and I soon was missing my period.
Advice
- I just suggest that a woman going through this believe it when everyone says it is very common. Despite knowing this, your heart will break and your hormones will be all over the place so allow yourself time to mourn. Also, if you decide to try again allow ample time for recovery as you could cause undue emotional pain if you and your partner are not mentally and physically ready.
