My Current Pregnancy
I just had a baby girl a few months ago. She was born full term and healthy. It was a long pregnancy but I had faith in my body and the process. That helped me to stay sane.
My Pregnancy Loss
My husband and I had two miscarriages before we conceived our daughter. One was at 8 weeks and the other at 12. The first time I was able to miscarry naturally and the second time I had to have a D & C when the doctor found that there was no heart beat.
Deciding to Get Pregnant Again
We were told to wait a few cycles before attempting another pregnancy. We meant to but it simply didn't happen that way. We actually had a condom break on us and then I found out I was pregnant, just 8 weeks after the D & C. We were so frightened. The doctor said not to worry, all we could do was wait and see.
He offered us tests during the pregnancy but nothing during the miscarriages had really turned up anything of "concern." So we opted not to have the tests. He said that he actually agreed that it would help us more to focus on the positive. We all breathed a huge sigh of relief at the 12 week mark when we heard the heart beat!
Advice
- Do what's right for you, don't take or refuse tests because it's right for someone else.
- Choose a doctor who is willing to answer your questions, even when they feel dumb.
- Ask what tests are available and why they might help or why they might not.
- Don't assume the worst.
- Enjoy every moment of pregnancy.
