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Readers Respond: How do you get people to stop touching your belly?

Responses: 95

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Updated August 18, 2009

From the article: Belly Issues
When you're pregnant it seems as if you might as well hang a sign on your stomach that says, "Free touches!" Pregnant women are always complaining about the unsolicited touche son the belly. People who want to pat the pregnant belly for fun are easily found. But what do you do when you do not wish to have your belly rubbed? Are you nice? Snarky? Do you have a fantastic comeback?

Very Personal

This is a very personal choice. I am 18 weeks pregnant with my first much longed for baby and am filled with excitement. Right now I have no problem with co-workers and family/friends touching my belly but I really do think its up to the individual and women have every right to say 'NO!' to anyone making them feel uncomfortable. For those saying pregnant woman should relax, its no big deal, don't be rude and finally the one that really annoys me..Blame our hormones!!!! You really need to shut up. Its a personal choice and no one has the right to say what anyone should or should not allow where their body and child is concerned. Yes we are protective especially if, like me, you are very nervous about things going wrong and yes we have hormones but we have a right to say 'back off' and people sitting in judgement need to show more respect and mind their own business! So far I'm fine with it but if strangers push me when I am heavily pregnant and its a hot summer I will be saying 'NO!'
—Guest firsttimemummy1979

No way.

I'd only allow my husband or my mom to touch it.. or my other kids.. not strangers and my friends were good enough to ask first.
—Guest pumpkincat210

Please Leave Me Alone

I love it when my fiancé touches my belly but everybody else hands off please People don't ask they just do and expect me to deal I'm sorry yes I have a cute little baby bump with a wiggly little girl inside but she doesn't seem to like being poked and prodded either I just feel invaded you wouldnt touch a baby a stranger was carrying don't touch them while they are inside
—Guest Destiny

Nope

How would people react if someone went up to a non-pregnant woman and started touching her belly, that would be sexual harassment. How or why should it be any different is she is pregnant. No excuse. Regardless of friend, family, or stranger your touch should be invited by the woman, not asked for by you.
—Guest Guest

not a big deal to me..

I am 26 weeks pregnant and I don't mind to be touched as long as I know the person. It don't matter to my husband too because were proud that after 4 years I finally got pregnant. I am trying to enjoy my pregnancy so I don't mind to be touched. Its an awesome feeling when I heard them saying congratulations, praying for your safe delivery. Sometimes we make fun they ask me what cause of my belly getting so big? I just replied its ahotdog.. LOL.. take it easy mommy's to be and just enjoy your pregnancy.
—Guest via

I didn't like being touched BEFORE!

I'm just at 12 weeks and I'm paranoid about this already! I don't like to be touched as it is - my father-in-law has to head me off at the door if he wants a hug! One of my closest friends was the first (besides my husband, whom I'm okay with for obvious reasons) to touch my belly the other day and even THAT made me uncomfortable - I think I will seriously lose it on some random stranger if they try! I like Krissy's idea of charging for it - 5 bucks a touch! I guess I could just tell people I don't even hug my own family so I can't handle people touching me.
—Guest Deb

But Why?

To the one that titled NO. Why do you or others feel the need to touch the belly? There is other ways to be happy for the expecting mom, then to molest her belly. I don't like the attitude that if I didn't want random people touching me, then I shouldn't of gotten pregnant. It wasn't a random person that got me pregnant, this is something that was intimate between my husband and me in our private bedroom. Touching my belly brings joy to others and discomfort to me. I'm not sure how that seems fair? I should be discomforted by others so they can feel a part of our pregnancy? Did they not notice they weren't invited to the making of the baby in the first place? I have been on the other end, w/ friends that were pregnant, didn't feel that my rights out weighed hers on invading her space and molesting her belly. I respected her and kept my hands to myself. It was not my pregnancy it was hers and her husbands. When my space is respected, it says to me, that they care and respect me.
—Guest Kay

To each her own...

It seems as though the people who feel it is "no big deal" for strangers to touch your belly always mention something about the fact that they love getting the attention. For the rest of us who are not attention whores, it is not about "getting over it". It is an offensive act that one only has to worry about when pregnant. It is somehow deemed acceptable only when you are pregnant. But no one goes up to an overweight person and rubs their bellies and asks how far along that hamburger is. It's ridiculous and invasive.
—Guest je

Melinda

I truly believe that you should only touch a woman's stomach when invited to do so. To assume that it's ok to rub a persons stomach just because she's pregnant is a very, very big assumption. I'm 18 weeks pregnant and feel that it's an invasion of my personal space if it's not invited. But I think you should go with what feels right. If you are ok with it, then fine. If it feels weird, then it's your body and baby. Don't be ashamed to put up certain boundaries.
—Guest Melinda

Pay up

I don't mind when certain close friends and family members ask then touch. Anyone else I intercept their hands, turn the belly away and say, "I've started charging $1 a touch pay up." Good way to stick up on diapers.
—Guest Krissy

Omg really!!

I don't mind at all that ppl touch my belly I am 38 weeks and all my pregnancy everyone touch it I mean why be so bogus about it is not that they are touching your boobs.
—Guest Lizz

Its Mine!

Ok so one day this like 4-year-old girl is standing behiend me in a line, and she askes me, "Why are you so fat?" And I say, "Honey I'm Pregnant." And her eyes got wide and she hugged my belly and wouldn't stop and I just pushed her back and kneeled down and started rubbing her belly she walked away. later I saw her and she was telling her mom, "Mommy, I'm Pregnant! And started rubbing her own belly! :D
—Guest Keanna

Stop Touching My Belly!!!

So I'm about Eight Months through and one day this kid comes up to me and starts rubbing my belly and kissing it and I push him away but he comes back and won't stop, and his dad comes along and apologies, then looks at my belly and starts doing the same thing his kid was doing. And his daughter does it too! Help!
—Guest Anne

Woof

When someone tries to touch my belly or actually makes contact I bark at them and ask them if they have any dog treats because that's what they are making me feel like. :)
—Guest noyoudidn't

Frustrating, grrr....

I'm almost 15 weeks now. Friends started touching my belly as early as like 7 weeks, I was getting so frustrated! These friends never even hugged me pre-pregnancy and now they feel the need to keep touching me. I don’t like being touched by anyone other than my fiancé so it makes me so angry and my hormones now just turn me into a crazy angry lady. Keep your hands OFF me!
—Guest firsttimemummy:-)

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