- I will never understand why EVERY WOMAN I know feels the same way but acts like they don't know when someone else is around. I have never been a touchy feely person and feel rude telling people "don't touch me" but dang. You know you didn't want peoples paws all over you when you were expecting so really....
- —Guest Angie
- I don't care if you think it is fine to touch pregnant womens' bellies. I don't care if you don't think it's a big deal. I don't care if you think there is nothing we should be upset about. The fact of the matter is: it's MY BELLY. You can make the decisions on your belly, but nobody else can tell me how I should feel about my own belly. I don't like to be touched (except by hubby and some family) and that did NOT change when I got pregnant.
- —Guest Not Your Decision to Make
Touch my belly, I'm gonna touch your...
- I complained to my friend that women I didn't even know would just walk up and think it was fine to touch my belly. She told me the next time it happened, to reach out and touch they're boob and say "Yea.. awkward huh!"
- —Guest cassie
Here is how!!!
- Hi ladies. I'm from the Caribbean and is pregnant for the first time. I am only eight weeks along and people are already reaching to touch the belly. For friends and family its okay but sometimes they are too much to handle. I always believe that honesty is the best policy and when I don't want a pat down for drugs at the airport I let them know gently that I'm uncomfortable at this moment with my belly being touched. At the end of the day you don't want to insult your family and friends who already love this child even before it starts looking like a human but at the same time you need to learn how to put your foot down when you are uncomfortable with a situation. If my family love me and respect me they will have to understand. Strangers is an absolute no no especially if they don't ask permission. You don't know where there hands have been and if you don't want to be touched let them know because it is your right. You wont be seeing them again so why bother with pleasantries.
- I think its nervy and a discusting invasion of your private space! I get really angry. What's wrong with people?
- —Guest Tammy
- I hate when people want to touch my belly. It's too sexual to me to be honest with you. That's something your partner does. I don't care if anyone disagrees with me I just think its gross otherwise. I've seen woman rub pregnant bellies like they are Buddha or something its disturbing! If they ask and I know the person I say yes but I can only stand for a small pat if I don't know them forget it!
- —Guest 34 weeks
- Thank God I'm not alone!! I'm about 14 weeks. Pre-pregnancy anyone who knows me will not touch me - I don't like it. Fast forward 14wks and quel surprise - they still know better. I doubt I'll take it well when I'm bigger, but I'm lost for a good come back!! Don't even start me on 'medical professionals' assuming it's okay! Just because you've seen 200 that day doesn't mean that you can touch mine! Back off!
- —Guest Elise
It's not a big deal
- I think people should embrace and feel proud to let people touch their bellies. Whats the big deal for the most part people who are not family will not do it for very long. Family should be able to because they are just as excited as you if not more. You should be glad for the attention. Once the baby is born you will have no more attention. I do however understand people not wanting strangers to actually touch your baby once he or she is born. That is the party that isn't right and I would protect the most.
- —Guest Cute
I understand but...no thanks!
- I understand WHY people want to rub my belly. They are in awe of the baby growing inside. But...that baby is inside ME, and it is ME they are rubbing. I am not touchy-feely anyway, and it actually makes me queasy and uncomfortable when strangers even pat me on the shoulder when I am not pregnant, let alone rub my belly when I am. Even my close friends don't do that unless they ask because they know how I am. I back away from strangers who rub my belly and people who don't ask first, but I usually let people who ask, even though I really want to run away right then. I understand and appreciate their admiration.
- —Guest MysticalMe1983
Not pregnant, but..
- I'm not pregnant, but I have always been worried about people molesting my stomach when I become so. I'm protective of my stomach as is, so I don't think having it swollen and baby filled is going to change my mind. I think it's rude to touch people at all without asking, and I'm NOT a hormonal pregnant lady.
- —Guest Kelly
still my body!
- I'm 20 weeks and the only people I want touching my belly is me and my partner. I hate other people trying to but don't know what to say. I let my partners mother touch once because I understand she's excited too but now she doe's it whenever she sees me and I feel like I left it too long to tell her touching isn't okay. I figure next time we go see her and she tries I'll offer to let her feel my rear (that's getting fat too) or maybe my boobs (after all, they feed the baby) or perhaps I could offer to show her where it comes out since she's so excited about the stretched skin of my belly. I don't like being touched and it is still ME she's feeling up. Not baby. GRR
- —Guest christina
- I'm not pregnant yet but my hubby and I have been trying and was wondering if the "belly touch" was a fact or a myth and came to find out it is true. I'm a very private person and I don't like to be touched so for those that say "play nice" good for you and you can let people touch you all you want, but that's not for me. It never even crossed my mind ever to go up to a pregnant woman anywhere and touch them. So when I get pregnant and have a belly showing, I won't let anyone else touch except my hubby and close family & friends. I agree with those who say it's an invasion of personal space. Why do people think they have the right (without asking) to just go up and touch you??!! And it's not about being sensitive, it's a personal preference. Hands off...
- —Guest Lea
- It does really tick me the heck off when strangers touch my belly, I'm 35 weeks (like someone else commented, give it a few weeks and he'll be here) so I have a decent bump. I work as a cashier...so I have to be nice...I would love to break it in half (their hand). I tell them I have a line if they are holding people up by touching my belly, but otherwise I HAVE to bite my toungue. But I do believe I'll start rubbing bellies back....
- —Guest missy
My belly ;)
- I'm 28 weeks pregnant and I was in the store one day with my husband when a group of girls comes up to us and they all started blabbering about my baby and trying to touch my tummy -.-.... so I barked at them and watched them runaway.
- —Guest protecting mama
- If you are pregnant of course someone is going to want to touch your stomach but just because your hormones are raging it doesn't mean you have the right to freak out and get mad. Yes getting upset is understandable, but when someone is genuinely happy for you, that you are having a child, you shouldn't throw it in their face. Would you rather the opposite? If someone did not reach out and touch your belly it is just the same as them not actually caring for you or your new born child. No strangers are not welcome to touch you, but when it comes to family's, friends, and acquaintances you should relax and feel humble.
- —Guest guest