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Readers Respond: How do you get people to stop touching your belly?

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A little ask

I'm pregnant with triplets, and it seems people always want to touch my hyper-extended belly. I always grab their hand if they just reach for it, though the ones who ask I let feel it. The people who just reach out and touch my belly, I just look at them and say "Did you ask me?" or if I'm in a bad mood "How would you like a hand removed?". I've only ever had one girl try to ru her hands all over my belly, and it got creepy enough I just decked her. People have to learn that expectan mothers are VERY preotective of their belles, whether that be though forcible means be up to them. I think it's an invasion of personal space, and paramount to people walking up and touching someone's newborn. Would that go over well with anyone? No. So why do people keep wanting to touch? I mean, I understand curiosity, but if you are curious, ask, otherwise keep your hands off or they will be torn off.
—Guest Maia

Blah!

I think that letting your family, hubby, and yourself to love on your belly is plenty.
—Guest Kristi

Might as well touch your privates

I am also from the Caribbean where believe or not people there tend to be of a superstitious culture. I am 5 months pregnant and I swear if anyone comes close to touching my belly I will lose it.it's uncomfortable enough that before someone sees your stomach, first questions are always 'who's the father, how far along are you? Like what the heck are you gonna be getting the check for me at the hospital of what?people need to respect people's bodies regardless.I thinking why don't you go touch yourself? It is gross it is pure perversion if you ask me.
—GuestPatricia

Know what you mean

I find a good way to stop people touching my belly is to intercept their hand as it comes toward my stomach and shake it really hard, while saying something like "I didn't know we were married, I mean, seriously, why else would you be trying to grope me?" Usually stops people pretty quickly. It's really awkward tho when you see that hand extending out toward you. Never be scared to tell people how they are making you feel.
—Guest 24 weeks

Does it happen that often?

My belly is just starting to show. A good friend said I was starting to look pregnant and didn't touch my belly so I have high hopes for the next 26 weeks. Do people really touch your belly that often or are people just hypersensitive to it? I can't imagine strangers wanting to touch me since I've never once wanted to touch a pregnant woman's stomach.
—Guest ambie18

OMG

I will never understand why EVERY WOMAN I know feels the same way but acts like they don't know when someone else is around. I have never been a touchy feely person and feel rude telling people "don't touch me" but dang. You know you didn't want peoples paws all over you when you were expecting so really....
—Guest Angie

Shouldn't Matter

I don't care if you think it is fine to touch pregnant womens' bellies. I don't care if you don't think it's a big deal. I don't care if you think there is nothing we should be upset about. The fact of the matter is: it's MY BELLY. You can make the decisions on your belly, but nobody else can tell me how I should feel about my own belly. I don't like to be touched (except by hubby and some family) and that did NOT change when I got pregnant.
—Guest Not Your Decision to Make

Touch my belly, I'm gonna touch your...

I complained to my friend that women I didn't even know would just walk up and think it was fine to touch my belly. She told me the next time it happened, to reach out and touch they're boob and say "Yea.. awkward huh!"
—Guest cassie

Here is how!!!

Hi ladies. I'm from the Caribbean and is pregnant for the first time. I am only eight weeks along and people are already reaching to touch the belly. For friends and family its okay but sometimes they are too much to handle. I always believe that honesty is the best policy and when I don't want a pat down for drugs at the airport I let them know gently that I'm uncomfortable at this moment with my belly being touched. At the end of the day you don't want to insult your family and friends who already love this child even before it starts looking like a human but at the same time you need to learn how to put your foot down when you are uncomfortable with a situation. If my family love me and respect me they will have to understand. Strangers is an absolute no no especially if they don't ask permission. You don't know where there hands have been and if you don't want to be touched let them know because it is your right. You wont be seeing them again so why bother with pleasantries.
—AprilAngelGeorge

Hell NO!

I think its nervy and a discusting invasion of your private space! I get really angry. What's wrong with people?
—Guest Tammy

No way!

I hate when people want to touch my belly. It's too sexual to me to be honest with you. That's something your partner does. I don't care if anyone disagrees with me I just think its gross otherwise. I've seen woman rub pregnant bellies like they are Buddha or something its disturbing! If they ask and I know the person I say yes but I can only stand for a small pat if I don't know them forget it!
—Guest 34 weeks

Back off!

Thank God I'm not alone!! I'm about 14 weeks. Pre-pregnancy anyone who knows me will not touch me - I don't like it. Fast forward 14wks and quel surprise - they still know better. I doubt I'll take it well when I'm bigger, but I'm lost for a good come back!! Don't even start me on 'medical professionals' assuming it's okay! Just because you've seen 200 that day doesn't mean that you can touch mine! Back off!
—Guest Elise

It's not a big deal

I think people should embrace and feel proud to let people touch their bellies. Whats the big deal for the most part people who are not family will not do it for very long. Family should be able to because they are just as excited as you if not more. You should be glad for the attention. Once the baby is born you will have no more attention. I do however understand people not wanting strangers to actually touch your baby once he or she is born. That is the party that isn't right and I would protect the most.
—Guest Cute

I understand but...no thanks!

I understand WHY people want to rub my belly. They are in awe of the baby growing inside. But...that baby is inside ME, and it is ME they are rubbing. I am not touchy-feely anyway, and it actually makes me queasy and uncomfortable when strangers even pat me on the shoulder when I am not pregnant, let alone rub my belly when I am. Even my close friends don't do that unless they ask because they know how I am. I back away from strangers who rub my belly and people who don't ask first, but I usually let people who ask, even though I really want to run away right then. I understand and appreciate their admiration.
—Guest MysticalMe1983

Not pregnant, but..

I'm not pregnant, but I have always been worried about people molesting my stomach when I become so. I'm protective of my stomach as is, so I don't think having it swollen and baby filled is going to change my mind. I think it's rude to touch people at all without asking, and I'm NOT a hormonal pregnant lady.
—Guest Kelly

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