Family size can be dictated by religion, money, medical issues and personal preference. But how did you or will know when you're having your last baby? Do you have the right number of kids in mind? Will you simply know? Does your budget make you stop and evaluate every cycle? What thoughts are you having concerning the process of deciding your family size?
This is it...
- I have 4 children and lost a baby at 10 weeks between #3 and #4. I'm 20 weeks with #5 and know this is it. I want to be able toraise all my children well, and with our plans, finances, and no real family living close to help, I don't think I could handle any more than 5 and still do it "well." Hopefully that makes sense. I worry about having some sadness after the baby is born and all the "stages" are over for the final time. This pregnancy has been pretty rough though and I'm turning 35 shortly after the baby is born, so I'm going to try to remind myself that it truly is the right decision for us when my hormones start wanting me to believe otherwise!!
- —Guest Angela
- I went from being an only child to raising quite a few kids due to my husband's large family. He had a son from a previous, I had a son from a previous, we had a daughter together, then we raised his younger sister (15) and brother (9). We were done, or so we thought, we talked about having more of our own a lot, but the time was never right. Then 9 years after our youngest child and recovering from health issues I found out I was pregnant. A little disappointed at first that the newest one was gonna be all alone, but come to find out twins. We weren't planning on having such a big family, but it was so worth it. I thank God for all the blessings.
- —Guest membername
This is the last...
- Despite the fact I would love 4 children, this is going to be our last pregnancy. The first trimester does a number on me and this time I found out I simply do not want to do this again. If we want to add to our family, we will become foster parents.
- I guess I am a little strange, I believe God has every woman seed numbered I believe you can't and want have any more than he intends so I guess that would explain why I am typing with one hand holding my number seven. Just what if I had stopped at 1-6 smiles?
- —Guest shayla
My body said so
- With #5 on the way my body is telling me "I'm done" so I'm going to listen. I've have increasing problems with each pregnancy and feel that 5 is a good fit for us. If we feel that we want more in the future we have decided to adopt.
My body decided for me
- After two kids, I very much wanted a third. My husband wasn't so sure. Finally he decided he wanted to give it a try. After about 9 months I conceived. At 17 weeks gestation our baby died due to a chromosomal abnormality. We later learned that any subsequent pregnancies would have a very high risk of chromosomal abnormalities. That combined with my history of increasingly severe migraines with each pregnancy (lasting well into the 2nd trimester) means I can't be pregnant again. It is devastating.
- When my husband and I got married we already had one son. He only wanted 2 children while I wanted 3. After our youngest son was born we knew we wernet done. Our daughter came 18 months later. We werent sure so I got an IUD. We later got pregnant with our 4th child (another girl) and I knew from the start of the pregnancy I was done and so was he. She has been here almost 6 months and we still don't want anymore children. Which is good because he got a vascetomy before she was born. 4 is definitely our limit.
- —Guest lynn
Thats a good question?
- I currently have 3 boys and we are TTC with #4, but since our third baby me and my husband did ask the question several times, if we were done or not. Also I question the fact how would I know that we were done. But I think the answer came to us more medically then anything. I have had 3 c-sections and 2 prior premie babys. So we consulted with a doctor who would perform one more c-section on me and so we are going for #4. I hope if number 4 is a boy again I will still feel complete!
How I knew I was done having babies
- I lost my first baby during 25 weeks gestation- God gave me two more after that- now I am done. I felt privileged to even have become pregnant- and when we lost him- I knew it didn't mean anything other than another angel being needed. Four months later- pregnant with another boy and less than two years after our son- came our third pregnancy with our daughter. A boy and a girl- my dream come true with God holding one and his trust in us with two more.
- —Guest Sunshine
I'm A Planner
- I'm a huge planner and the plan was always to have just two - after my second I never really gave it another thought - I had a daughter and a son and was very content with that. Perhaps if I had two girls or two boys I might have had a second thought but I think I would have stopped either way. DH had a vasectomy when our second was six weeks old and we never once regretted it. We became grandparents when our son was 16 so not too many years to wait to have more babies to cuddle and love. Now my daughter is done at two. Will have to wait for my son or great-grandchildren. In the meantime I will get my baby fixes by being a doula and helping other women.
I always thought I'd just know...
- I never preplanned how many kids I wanted, and my husband always thought about a generic two or three. After we got married and started truly discussing a family, our budget and our beliefs, we decided to wing it. In playing it by ear, we stop to ask ourselves, "Are we done?" And so far the answer is no. I just know that one day, I'll know I'm done. We're planning for number four and I'm thinking that this will probably be the one that pushes me across the finish line.
- —Guest Meagan