Deflated
- I found out yesterday that I was having another girl, I have 2 daughters already. I really felt like this one was a boy. I crave different food all spicy my belly is low I didn't want any more children so I was hoping for a boy, I know it sounds selfish but I feel deflated and depressed and I am scared I won't want her when she is born, my husband feels useless like he can't produce a boy, I have no girl names, and I can't stop crying. Will I get over this?
- —Guest nicola kelly
Everyone Telling Me!
- I am the proud mum of 1 girl and 2 boys. I found out by accident with my 2nd that it was a boy after my hubby and I thinking all along it was another girl. I cried all the way home the day I found out, but realised that now I would have one of each. When it came to my 3rd my husband made us find out... another baby boy... I was devastated I desperately wanted another girl for my first. I cried also but got over it and once he was born I was totally in love! I am now pregnant again with my youngest being 4... I have all my family around me even my husband saying its a girl... we didn't find out for this one and I have been so emotional and grief stricken because I do want that girl, but am trying to talk myself into it being a boy again. I know I already have a girl, but another I feel would just complete it. So I now have 3 weeks left til the birth of our 4th... our Surprise! Will soon see if my family or I are right!
- —Guest Guest Wondering
Great
- I was very happy because my baby was fine and active. About the sex - when I found out I was really glad even if it was the other sex, I would be happy as I am having a baby...be it a girl or a boy.
- —Guest Muniba AAsif
I always thought I'd have boys
- I never imagined myself as a mother of girls, I was a tomboy, my husband had 2 brothers and a nephew when we conceived, so everyone thought the baby would be a boy. It was a girl and my husband was so happy he almost cried. Our second child was then also a girl, and whilst I'm glad we have 2 girls so they can be girly together (I'm just not girly) it has left us with a dilemma. Do we try again? I desperately, desperately want a boy, for myself, my hubby and for my father who never had boys of his own, but I am terrified I'll end up with 3 girls. I would love the 3rd daughter fiercely as I do my 2 already but I so want a boy. I don't know what to do. I don't want to spend my whole life thinking what if, but if we had a third daughter, surely she would realize we were trying for a boy? That would be awful. I am so torn...
- —Guest Emma
I can't imagine having a boy
- I have PCOS and endometriosis, am only 21, and am struggling to get pregnant. You'd think someone in my position would be happy with either one, but I cannot imagine having a boy. I also went to two psychics who said I would have 5 children (some through adoption some biological), 4 girls and a boy. My mom said she really thinks I'll have a girl. I have 3 sisters. I just don't know how to parent a boy, I'm scared that I will though.
- —Guest Kel
Selfish
- In my second pregnancy (I have a boy already who is 12 years) I was so desperate to have a girl that I could not see that my selfishness was stopping me from falling pregnant. Once I accepted that the whole point of falling pregnant was to have a happy and healthy baby regardless of its gender I fell pregnant straight away. I am totally in love with my lil man and am so glad that I am blessed to have him in my life and that he may not have been here if I continued to be selfish. I believe we should be happy for what we get as there are people out there who can't have babies and would do anything to have a baby regardless of the gender so we should look at out miracles everyday and thank the lord that we have been lucky enough to experience the miracle of pregnancy, childbirth and our children.
- —Guest Guest mum of 2 beautiful boys
Soon to be mom of 3
- I have a daughter (3 yrs) son (1 yrs) and I am expecting again. I am happy as long as the little one is healthy.
- —Guest Guest
Tried of waiting
- We have three sons 9, 6, almost 2. We found out in Feb. we were expecting baby #4. I was so depressed, so sure it was another boy and I just really wasn't ready for that. Thankfully by my 15th week God gave me such a peace about this new baby. At 17 weeks we found out to our great delight that we were having A GIRL. We were so shocked and so thankful for this blessing. Just three weeks later, on June 16th, 2010 I delivered our daughter, Lily Kristyn into the arms of heaven. Ithas been so unbelievably hard. We are unexpectatly expecting again. I cannot bear the unknown. I will be fine if this is a boy, I just need to know. This really needs to be our last pregnancy, the last three pregnancies have not healthy for me or my family. I become so depressed. I would love to adpot. Anyway. I want to know so desperatly what this baby is-my Ellyana (which means God has answered) or our Noah Ray. Either way I believe children are a blessing. I just so want to know the joy of raising a daughter.
- —Guest Kristy
Hoping for a princess
- I have 2 gorgeous boys age 7 and 2 and I love them with all of my heart. They are so loving and make me laugh every day. I'm now 7 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and really hope it's a girl. I have wanted a girl with every pregnancy but when I found out my 1st was a boy I was ok about it because I always knew I would have another and hoped my 2nd would be a girl. Once again when I found out it was a boy I was a bit dissapointed but thought it would be nice for my son to have a brother and do boy things together and seeing them play together now melts my heart. I never thought I would try for a 3rd but after seeing my sons with my partner doing boy things my desire for a girl only grew stronger. I really hope this one is a girl but I feel so guilty for feeling this way as my boys are perfect in every way. I know I'm so lucky to be blessed with 2 beautiful children when some people can't have any. I feel so selfish but can't help how I feel.
- —Guest Mum of 2 boys
Disappointed
- I delivered our first healthy baby girl recently. We had not planned for a baby but I became pregnant accidentally from the beginning of my pregnancy I had a gut feeling that its a boy and I love sports so could connect with the baby too. In last month of my pregnancy I had dreams of having a girl and i was completely shattered. Now I am the happiest mom ever she is like an angel and has changed my life. I think its a phase and you do come over it though sometimes deep in your heart you feel guilty but time heals it. I thank this forum to a great extent it has definitely helpped me overcome and to realise how many people in the world needed a little princess which god has gifted me.
- —Guest guest guest
Cant understand
- I don't know what will happen and how i will handle this it just makes me feel cheated and sad.
- —Guest Melanie
Still in denial
- I do have a girl, but I also have 3 boys and I just felt like the odds were in our favor this time and really thought in my head I was having a girl, after 2 ultrasounds they both said boy, but I'm still in denial! I'm gonna have a 3D one soon and until I see it in 3D I just won't believe it's another BOY!!!!
- —Guest crob
3 boys who are desperate for a sister!!
- I have 3 sons aged 6,4 & 2. I didn't find out till he was born with my first son and was over the moon. There was a small part of me that wanted a girl with my second son, but when I found out he was a boy I was happy. It was with my 3rd son that I really ached for a daughter, I did all the online gender tests that told me I was having a girl. So I really got all my hopes up. Until the lady doing the scan told me it was another boy, I just burst into tears there and then, I couldn't help it, I bet she thought I was a right nasty cow! It took me about a week to get over the shock and then u started to look forward to having another son, I love all my boys with all my heart and wouldn't change any of them. Although if I was guaranteed a little girl I would go into labour right now!! I'm too scared to try again though. I think it's normal to be disappointed even at the sex of you child, as long as that disappointment goes before your baby arrives!!
- —Guest Lisa
Another girl
- I have a 2 y/o girl and another girl on the way. I was extremely shocked b/c we had gone through the Ericssons method to help increase our chances for a boy. I come from a family of 4 girls and my husband has 2 sisters so we really wanted to experience the joy of having a lil' boy. Not only am I shocked but am saddened that we sacrificed conceiving naturally and did not take the advice of trying Shettles and put my trust and faith into a facility that provided us the hope and 80'% success rate for having a boy. I think that is the most difficult thing for me to accept is how the procedure failed for us....I feel guilty for not trying naturally. It's been mentally frustrating thinking about the "what if's". I really only wanted 2 children but even considering a 3rd I am confused/scared as I cannot come to terms with having yet another girl .
- —Guest Sheila
Blessed X 3
- I am a proud mother of 2 beautiful boys. My first son 12 (from a pevious marriage) is a precious gift but I remember feeling disappointed that he was not a girl when I first found out I was expecting a boy. My second son age 2 1/2 is from my current marriage, and remember feeling a twinge of disappointment again when first finding out, but in long run in both cases I was happy to know they were healthy and couldn't love them more. Now pregnant again we found out we are having a GIRL! I was so happy when first finding out until I took a look at the devasted look on my husband's face (he was so sure it was a boy) but since he has grown to accept that he now has a daughter on the way...we are both very excited to have a healthy baby... for me having a girl is 3 times the blessing!
- —Guest Chrissy
