My Current Pregnancy
I am happy to share that I am 14 weeks pregnant after having had 2 miscarriages in the past year. It took over 1 year to get pregnant after my 1st miscarriage 9 years ago. I got pregnant with this pregnancy 7 months after the last miscarriage. Don't give up hope because it is possible!
My Pregnancy Loss
The 1st loss was a "honeymoon" baby and we were devastated. It took over 1 year to get pregnant again. Happily we've been able to go on to have 3 healthy children over the past 8 years. My most recent miscarriages happened over the past year. One was a "blighted ovum" in which the baby just stopped growing and the other was a "chemical" pregnancy where there is fertilization but no implantation. We were sad but ok because we were already blessed with the 3 children that we already had.
Deciding to Get Pregnant Again
Since I am an "older" mother I was advised by one OB (not my regular) to stop trying to get pregnant since I'd already had 2 miscarriages in the past year. He told me that it might be my body's way of "telling" me to stop. My husband really wanted to have us try 1 more time and I was fine either way - stopping at 3 or trying one more time. My regular OB (whom I adore) told me that she thought that it would be fine to try again. I had just turned 41 when I got pregnant with this pregnancy. She said that she's had many patients over 40 having children and that it is not so uncommon anymore. Deciding to get pregnant again is such an individualized decision. There is NO right or wrong answer. The only right answer is what is right FOR YOU and your situation.
Advice
- Don't give up hope. Many times it may just be that the egg and sperm at that one month just wasn't a good match and it was God's way of "weeding out" the fittest. It hurts emotionally and psychologically. Allow yourself to grieve because it is a loss no matter how far along. Give yourself time. Some people feel better talking about it while others do not. I was a talker. It amazed me to realize just how many other woman out there had been through this experience. Remember there are many other options out there to look into including the wonderful gift of adoption.
