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Things to Say to a Laboring Woman

Encouragement in Labor


Updated June 09, 2014

Couple at the hospital in labor
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Comfort in labor comes in many forms. A very easy way for nearly anyone to help comfort a laboring woman is to talk to her. These kind words really help and work wither she is having an unmedicated birth or a birth with an epidural.

  1. Hang in there!
    A note of support without a lot of pressure.
  2. You're doing a great job.
    She may not believe you even if it's true. Her experience of what is going on feels much differently than what you're seeing. Meaning she may feel out of control while she looks calm and collected.
  3. I love you!
    Need I say more?
  4. Think of the baby...
    For a mother who wants to be reminded of the baby in labor, which is easier than you think to forget about, this can be helpful. You might also use a similar phrase agreed upon in labor.
  5. You're going to be a great mother.
    Sometimes laboring women have fears, including what kind of a mother they will be. If she's concerned about it, be sure to ask ahead of time to find out what her fear is and use an affirmation like this to help ease that.
  6. Awesome!
    A nice quick word to whisper in her ear when she's got very low concentration levels.
  7. Keep going...
    A nod of approval during a long labor, as in "I know you're tired, but you're doing great, so keep going..."
  8. I'm here for you.
    You're not leaving her side, be sure she knows that.
  9. Just a bit more...
    Use this one only if you're reasonably sure that it's true. Otherwise, you lose your credibility. Ask a nearby professional for some help here and know they are guessing too.
  10. You are doing it!

Read more: What You Shouldn't Say in Labor

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