The period of time between when the decision is made to go to the hospital and when you actually arrive is another story. Sure, there is information about planning for the ride, but what can you do to actually make the ride as comfortable as possible? (Remember, no matter where you fall in the medicated or unmedicated labor decision, the ride to the hospital is unmedicated for everyone.) Here are my ten tips as a mother and as a doula who has supported many moms on this specific journey.
- Know where you’re going on the road.
Knowing where you’re going and how to get there will relieve some of the stress in the car. I have seen many a “fight” break out over where to go and which road to take, all because mom had a preference. If she has a preference, take that road.
- Make a nest.
Bringing along something to keep you comfortable in the car is a great idea. If you are worried that you will forget it, then leave a small kit in the car. I would recommend a pillow, a blanket and anything else that you might find comfortable. If you are worried about your water breaking while you are in the car, or if it’s been broken prior to getting in the car, you may worry about how to deal with the leaking. You can either wear a large pad in your underwear, use plastic backed pads or even towels to cover your seats.
- Play music.
Music can be a great boon to maintaining or promoting relaxation. Be sure to play some in the car, even if quietly in the background. You can use your music device, the radio or simply CDs. This is one time when the driver does not get to have control over the radio.
- Bring someone with you.
When I say that someone should come with you, I do not simply mean the driver. If you can, have a friend ride with you, or your doula. (As a doula, I prefer to follow you in my car to allow me a way to get home after the birth is over.) This is simply someone to help keep you calm, rub your back and assist you during contractions.
- Go slowly.
Of all the car rides in labor that I’ve had – the one thing in common is the request to go more slowly. This might sound counter-intuitive. But the road, the ride, everything can be more overwhelming when in labor. Some mothers actually prefer that you pull all the way over while you’re driving. Unless there is a really good reason not to stop, I suggest pulling over for the contraction. Yes the ride will take longer, but it will also be more comfortable for mom.
- Avoid bumps.
I really wish I didn’t have to say it, but avoid bumps, construction and rail road tracks if you can. This is not always possible. When it isn’t possible, you should go as slowly as possible to minimize the pain for mom.
- Hazards on.
I also recommend that if you are not driving fairly normally, then you should put your hazards on. This allows other drivers to know that something is up. That way, if you are pulling over every three or four minutes on the expressway, it’s more expected and less likely to cause an accident.
- If mom is having the baby right now…
Pull the car over. Call 9-1-1 and they will help you, while at the same time dispatching someone to help you. While you may want to freak out, it’s best not to do it while driving.
- If you aren’t driving…
Public transportation is a reality for some who don’t live where driving a car is feasible. Know what’s the best way to get to the hospital or birth center when in labor. This may be a bus, a subway or a taxi. Talk to those who are in your prenatal classes or are having their baby where you are about how they intend to get to the hospital.
- Know where to go once there.
Once you make it to the hospital, be sure that you know where you are going. Where should you park? What entrance should you go to once there? Will someone be waiting for you?
Once you are at the place of birth, you can safely rely on your birth plan to help you. Even though this ride may have been a short one, or perhaps a not so short ride, it will mean a very different set of circumstances when you leave with your baby.