As people have moved further away from family, it became much more common to have a baby shower earlier in the third trimester. This is where the vast majority of baby showers occur in modern times.
Occasionally each family will have a variety of reasons to hold a baby shower earlier. Some of these reasons to have a baby shower at a different time might be:
- Twins or Other Multiple Pregnancy
When a mother is expecting twins or other multiples it may be common to hold a baby shower very late in the second trimester or earlier in the third trimester. Since twins tend to come a bit earlier this can prevent mom from missing her baby shower because the babies have been born. It also is less likely that she will be on bed rest.
- Religious or Cultural Beliefs
Some cultures and religions have taboos against having a baby shower before the birth of a baby. In these cases a baby shower may be held after the baby’s birth. The benefit here is that the baby can usually attend the party!
- Geographic Location
If the family is scattered, it might be that you decide to have the baby shower at a time and location that can allow the most family members to attend. This will also allow the baby shower to be held at a time when the pregnant mother is most able to travel comfortably.
- Seasons or Other Gatherings
Sometimes if the family is far flung, having a baby shower around a holiday or other family gathering where most people will already be together is appropriate.
Even when there are extenuating circumstances as to the timing of a baby shower, it is generally considered that a baby shower should not be held until after the 20 week mark in pregnancy.