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Families Behaving Badly to Pregnancy Announcements

By August 18, 2013

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Let's face it, our families often don't react how we expect or want them to react to anything. And yet, when you're pregnant, you expect everyone to be as happy about it as you are. The truth is that you don't always get the response you expect or want from your family when announcing your pregnancy. Here's Donna's experience:

Newborn hand"We recently shared the news that we are expecting #2. Our first child is one and will be close to 2 when the baby is born. When we told the entire family at once, there was complete awkward silence for what seemed to be 10 minutes. I just got up and went outside because I wanted to cry. When I came back inside still no one had said a thing to me. As people were leaving a good majority of them said congratulations (but it didn't seem sincere or happy to say it).

"A week later I still have gotten no response out of anyone and have been very emotional about it. I called my mom and left a message about how I felt. And my MIL told my husband that she kind of felt bad that we didn't get a "good" reaction to our pregnancy. Family is supposed to be supportive and happy for you. Yes this was a planned pregnancy, we own a house, 2 vehicles, my husband has a good job and I work part time so I can be home with our little guy. We are so sad!"

Do your family have a similar reaction? How did you handle it?

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Comments
August 13, 2012 at 12:32 pm
(1) Kristina says:

I have had almost the same reaction but worse. I had told my family and the father of my son that I was pregnant I was young and everyone told me not to have my son. But I dis not listen to anyone. It was sad everyone made me cry & my son is three n im still upset about it.

August 13, 2012 at 1:00 pm
(2) Carla says:

That’s why i waited like 4-5 months to say something. But I never expect anyone to be happy for me. As long as my husband and I were happy and excited I could care less for their reactions. They got surprised but still some of them thought i was crazy since my first was only 1 year old when i found out was pregnant. Today my son will be 6 months in a couple of days and all the family is really happy for us to have him. Well if they weren’t to bad for them.

August 14, 2012 at 12:33 pm
(3) Kristin says:

This isn’t exactly a bad reaction but it made things uncomfortable. When we found out we were expecting our first we told just our close family members (parents and siblings) in the first trimester. We wanted to share the good news with those closest to us but not tell everyone in case of miscarriage. We asked those who knew not to tell anyone else yet because we wanted to wait until after 13 weeks. My in-laws kept pressuring us to tell everyone and let them tell who they wanted to. It was an unfortunate and uncomfortable situation. We should have been free to tell who we wanted, when we wanted and we were pressured into telling some people we didn’t want to yet. It was our decision and it was taken away from us. Thankfully we have our precious son who is 8 months old now, but it would have saved us some stress if they had just respected our wishes and let us tell people in our own time. Next time, unfortunately, I am strongly considering just telling them along with our public announcement.

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