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Robin Elise Weiss, LCCE

First Trimester Sex in Pregnancy

By November 5, 2010

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Fertility Flower recently did some research about first trimester sex in pregnancy.  Their poll found that more than 1 in 5 couples were foregoing having first trimester sex in pregnancy for fear of hurting the baby.  While this has been shown to be an absolutely safe time to have sex for most couples, the fear is still present in many women and men. I actually hear more about the feeling too tired, too sick, too whatever when it comes to first trimester sex, but their poll of over 3,800 new parents in America said that this was true only in about 9% of the cases of voluntary abstinence.

Other interesting notes to the poll are that  the average number of times a couple had sex in the first trimester was between 5-10 times, with 11% of the parents saying that they had sex only 15 times the entire pregnancy.

The good news?  Despite what you, and 42% of the women polled believe, only 4% of men said that they found their partner unattractive.

Kimberly Ann Racic, founder of FertilityFlower.com, commented on the research; "Concerns about harming the baby during intercourse are common, however pregnancy shouldn't be a reason for things to change between a couple. It is perfectly natural and healthy to be intimate during pregnancy; a loving relationship is normally at its strongest during this stage, therefore the desire to be close to each other will be extremely strong."

The take away?  Talk about what you are feeling when it comes to intimacy.  Pregnancy can be a time of great intimacy, sexually and otherwise.

Where did you fall on the spectrum for the first trimester or beyond?


November 5, 2010 at 10:08 am
(1) preconceptionist says:

We fell on the low end of the frequency scale–only twice during the first trimester (not counting ttc period). My husband is afraid of hurting the baby and thinks its awkward to have sex knowing our future child is inside me. No amount of pregnancy books and articles will alleviate his fears. Sigh…

November 6, 2010 at 9:25 am
(2) pregnancy says:

Don’t you think guys have this hard time connecting because they can’t see a difference and all they know is you don’t feel well? I know my DH felt similarly, particularly the first pregnancy.

November 5, 2010 at 7:01 pm
(3) anon says:

first trimester = waaaaaaay too sick, thought i would puke all over my husband if he tried to kiss me… now i’m still scared because we had LOTS of sex with my first baby, but i also got LOTS of UTI’s. now sex is once a month, and i haven’t had a UTI yet (knock on wood!). my goal is to avoid antibiotics with this baby as much as possible, it really affected my son’s teeth during my first pregnancy.

November 26, 2011 at 7:09 am
(4) genia says:

my fiancee will NOT have sex he says he wont do it til the baby is born i cant convince him otherwise

April 20, 2012 at 11:30 pm
(5) rose says:

Well this is my first pregnancy & I have been extremely intimate with my boyfriend I honestly don’t think it’s nothing wrong with it. Isn’t that how u got pregnant in the first place. Every woman still needs to feel loved & still feel attractive to her spouse

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