I'm noticing a trend and I wonder if you see it too - people who are really upset when they don't get pregnant the first month or so that they are trying to conceive. Don't get me wrong, I get why they'd be upset pregnancy-wise, but realistically and statistically, conception doesn't work that way.
Part of it is, in my opinion, that we spend so much time worrying about avoiding pregnancy and thinking about birth control, that we honestly believe that one time we don't use birth control we'll get pregnant. If it works that way when you don't want to get pregnant, surely it works that way when you do want to get pregnant.
The current recommendations are that you should seek help after twelve months of trying to conceive with well timed intercourse. (This number drops to six months if you are over 35.) I certainly think that there are times when you could be seen sooner and certainly I'd advocate that everyone who wants to get pregnant should start with a preconception check up. That would be a great time to talk about ways to identify when you ovulate so that you can do your part for the well-timed intercourse portion.
Certainly infertility is a problem, but you're not infertile if you've only been trying a month or two. My best guess is what you need to start with is some advice on charting your menstrual cycle to pinpoint ovulation. The good news is that having this information will help you get pregnant sooner, or be more prepared when you see someone about your cycles.
What do you think is causing us to be so anxious?
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