Second Pregnancy?
Friday July 4, 2008
I laughed as I read a blog post from My Salad Days. Jenn had just welcomed her second daughter, from her post. In her post she talks about the ups and downs of being a mom again. My favorite point was that brushing your hair is overrated - I so totally get that one! Another friend just announced she's expecting number two. I'm very happy for her, but I think she's slightly deluded about how easy it will be. She thinks she knows everything there is to know about pregnancy because she's done it once. The truth is that when you do find that you are pregnant with your second, third or more baby, you will have to deal with so many changes, because no two pregnancies are alike. Many of us expect the romantic period that we enjoyed with our first period. The ability to lounge around in our bed and nap when the baby demanded it of our bodies. The second time around that is all history!
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I could not agree more. My husband and I are trying to concieve. My son is 9 an dI am terrified. My first pregnancy was so easy. I slept when I needed to I did not work so I had all the time in the world to work on decorating the room. Now I am so busy with work, my sons activities and taking care of our home I am not certain what is going to happen.
i agree as well. each pregnancy is both physically and emotionally different and brings its own set of anxieties and joys. my children are 12,9 and 6 and i am 12 weeks pregnant with a pleasant surprise. physically, this pregnancy has been completely different and this time around emotionally – it is a whole new ballgame. fulltime work, preteen children, soccer games for 3, being 35… the list is neverending… while each child and pregnancy brings joy and elation at every milestone – it truly is a new process and experience each and every time.
no two pregnancies can ever be alike, you’re dealing with a different person than the one or ones before. I am pregnant again I found out I was pregnant about a month after my baby girl turned one. I was scared because the labor was difficult and I remember all the pains of labor and if I didn’t remember it right away it started to come back to me. I am due in late June and where I live it’s already 90 degrees. so I am extra hot. Not to mention my mother in law has been living with us for the past eight months and seems very reluctant to leave even thought she is in the room we need for the new baby. This time around is very stressful and I try to get massage when I can. It’s not the same by any means especially when you have another child to look after!
when i found out i was preg with my second, i too thought it all would be a breeze..but i was sadly mistaken. I have a 3 yr old daughter so all summer long i felt like i could never nap or rest she always wanted to go outside and then run away when i tried bringing her back in lol..picture a whale running that was me! it was so ruff. and now my son is 5 months old..and i cant let my daughter out to watch her if the baby is inside..i can bring him out but not for long..i cant grocery shop anymore with out my hubby its too hard..and the 3 year old wants to run…its not like i can push 2 buggies…baby is too big for the car seat to go in the cart but even if it werent to big..where would i put my groceries? ahhh u cant do anything unless u got a sitter which i dont so it is so hard. i love my kids but my oh my its far from easy as pie!! lol p.s sex is a thing of the past for us were too tired by the time there settled…maybe someday when there older
I am now pregnant with my second child and I agree completely that this one is different. I had a rough first pregnancy and a completely horrible delivery that ended after 22 hours by an ER C-section. This pregnancy is/has been rough from day one. I’m disappointed that some people think that it is going to be easy, but also that they have more than one and complain how hard it is to do things. I am a working mother and plan to continue working until my Dec, and after my recovery. My son will be two next week and is being tested for Autism in Jan at Riley. It may be harder with another child, especially until they are older, but I will NEVER feel like it was a mistake nor feel like I have to have a sitter to go anywhere. It may take me longer, but my children are precious to me, and they are my world. I have too many friends who dump their kids on their parents or other friends, to go to bars or hang out….we have kids to make a difference, I’m tired of people treating them like a burdens. If children are such burden, don’t have them! Remember, they are our future and our chance to make a difference.
I don’t think anyone would trade their kids in. I feel that parents do need time alone sometimes to regroup. Sometimes when you spend time away even if you are away from them for an hour you realize how much you miss what they do and just remind yourself how much you love them.I don’t feel anyone who posted feels like their child and children are a mistake we are all caring mothers who need a place to vent with each other. The truth is having a baby to take care of and having a bulging belly with a baby in it and then not being able to do the things you used to do with your children the the full extent can be trying. You do the best you can and love your kids but a little time alone with your husband or friends to remind yourself that you are still a woman with opinions, dreams, and feelings should not be looked down upon or considered “dumping” on someone else.
I just turned 22 and I’m 3.5 months preg with my second child right now. My first amazing little boy just turned two in Feb. I work at a daycare so I’m with my son all day long and wouldnt change that for the world. But it definately wears me out by the end of the day chasing him and up to 20 other children all day. When I get home my husband takes him because I need a break to rest and regroup myself before taking care of my home and family. I dont in ANY way feel like my son is a burden to me…but do feel like he has 50x more energy than I do especially being pregnant. So I am SO grateful that my mom is able to watch him occasionally to give my husband and I time to go to dinner or something together and refocus on eachother. The night usually ends in complaining that I miss him and want to go get him. But its nice to have the opportunity to take a step away for a couple hours and realize all over again how precious my baby is. I’m so emotionally overwhelmed this pregnancy which I was NOT before. Two kids is a HUGE step. I had to have an Emergency Csection after 22 hours of labor and the incision became infected with my first son. A Vbac is not available where I live so I’m nervous about giving my son the attention he deserves while I’m recovering this time around. I became very sick and had a difficult recovery last time…so I dont know what to expect! I was niave and expected to know everything this time…but the 2nd time around is a whole new experience.
How true. Everyone expects that with a second pregnancy, you are more experienced, and so should be able to handle whatever comes along, and so are less willing to give allowances.
Each baby is different and we can tell these differences even from the womb!
I am 35 with two boy’s, 2 and 4. I stay at home with them. I am pregnant again after a m/c in September. I was worried when I had two and how to handle everything and now the third one at times scares me but I know in 3 years I’ll be where I am now with the kids able to do alot for themselves and not need mom as much so I enjoy all I can. It get easier everyday.
everything everyone said is so true. I am 24 now and 5 mnths pregnant with my second baby which was totally unexpected and a total shock for me as I have a full time job and a 24hr job taking care of my daugher who is only 1yr 3mnths old!!! Fortunatly for me I don’t get that bulky but I do get very tyred at times but with my daughter it is very difficult to rest. My mum helps me out alot on the contrary to my husband which now I am doing my best to involve him in as much as I can so that he gets used to it, as with two kids it will double the work and also double the expenses as yesterday from my ultrasound i got to know that it’s a boy. Well now I am looking foward for my new baby and also for the challange as I know that it will be hard as my daughter is very close to me but hopefully I will get trough it all. Good luck xxx
These were hilarious! I loved the brushing your hair as optional. I actually told dh I wanted to shave my head!
Amen! I just had my second child three weeks ago, and I was surprised and shocked at how much longer even the simplest of tasks take! And I also haven’t done my hair sense he was born!!